All posts by Don Miller

About Don Miller

A lifetime Las Vegas resident and father of three grown children, Don spent 15 years as a licensed psychotherapist and speaker in private and hospital practices. Prior, he was part owner of an award-winning family advertising agency. Having fallen into addiction to crystal methamphetamine several years ago, losing everything to the drug, he has been clean since 9/4/11 and more sober about life with each passing day. The stories and content of this site are the accumulating epiphanies of his journey into sobriety, shared here to inspire others, especially those who remain embroiled in addictive battles of their own. LifeMeansSoMuch, the song title by Chris Rice (and you are highly encouraged to download it on ITunes or YouTube,) is the lyrical inspiration for the content of this site. Don is currently a life coach, author, speaker and manager at a non-profit, HopeLink of Southern Nevada.

in one ear and out the other.

Go to this people and say, “You will be ever hearing but never understanding; you will be ever seeing but never perceiving. For this people’s heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes. Otherwise they might see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their hearts and turn, and I would heal them.’”

‭‭Acts‬ ‭28‬:‭26‬-‭27‬ ‭NIV‬‬

In one ear and out the other.

Arguments and evidences, no matter how persuasively presented, oftentimes have little to no effect on senses seared shut by ‘truths’ presented by the world.

Whether faith, politics, or even travel advice (read Paul’s unheeded advice about God’s warning and promise) at some point, you have to move on to others whose hearts and minds are unafraid to change and whose pride hasn’t yet walled them in.

When you present the way to save someone’s life, soul, or even way of government, and they won’t listen, it moves out of your responsibility to report and wholly into their choice to accept.

Motivation from a place of love, care and compassion is never lost in the effort but the fact remains that it still takes two to tango, and plenty of others out there eager for a dance partner.

Carol called.

Carol called.

It’s been several years since I heard from her.

Now 85, she was once a client I helped through some really tough years.

Now in a wheelchair, she said she’d made it through the pandemic while most of her friends and neighbors had succumbed.

I explained I’ve been working from home for a couple years writing grants and doing donor relations work. She said she found my number in some papers and “just needed to hear your voice…someone’s voice today.”

She was always a tough, independent character who could take a joke and dish one better right back. But today her voice was different.

She has no one anymore. Friends and family are all gone and she doesn’t get out. I had found her a terrier pup way back but Trixie crossed the bridge several months ago.

Small talk wound down when in closing she said “It’s good to hear your voice.”

As we hung up I vowed to phone her for a chat on Friday mornings when I’m off work and while I’m still six feet above.

She’s just 20 years older than me.

That fact is deafening.

No one should have no one.

I’m not voting for Trump.

I’m not voting for Trump.

I’m voting for First Amendment freedoms.

I’m voting for Second Amendment rights to defend those freedoms and my family.

I’m voting for Supreme Court Justices who protect the Constitution and the Bill of Rights.

I’m voting for economic recovery and growth, lower interest rates, taxes, gas prices, food costs, and reducing inflation.

I’m voting for unnecessary U.S. involvement in foreign conflicts.

I’m voting for the Electoral College.

I’m voting for police respect and law and order.

I’m voting for appointment of Federal Judges who respect the Constitution and the Bill of Rights.

I’m voting for keeping jobs in the U.S. and a return to Made in America.

I’m voting to stop border invasion and a return to legal immigration. I am voting for voter ID and election integrity.

I’m voting for a strong Military & Veteran care.

I’m voting for unborn babies right to life.

I’m voting for peace in the Middle East and negotiations that make a difference.

I’m voting against human/child trafficking, pedophilia and protecting perpetrators.

I’m voting for Freedom of Religion.

I’m voting against censorship by special interests.

I’m voting for education over indoctrination that teaches our kids how to think, not what to think.

I’m not voting for Trump.

My list is by no means exhaustive but I’m voting for the candidate whose policies are most closely aligned with mine

lunatic, liar or Lord?

Long ago, I read that Jesus was either a lunatic, a liar, or Lord of all.

In either capacity, he claimed a mission to save us from the deceiver of this world.

Since his entrance on the world stage, billions and billions have come to believe in him as option three, Lord of all.

If he had indeed been a lunatic or liar, his mission against deception would have been a heinously more evil imposition of a second and more perverse deception in its place.

That’s not the Jesus understood by even lunatics or liars, leaving us only one divine option.

nuance.

This is getting old.

Around this time every year for the last 13 years, I’ve come up with some new way to announce my gain of another year sober. I don’t refer to being clean much anymore because unless you’re clean from the use of drugs, alcohol, or whatever addictive nouns once possessed you, you’re not sober. And to me, sobriety is the bigger gain.

Now while I thank God for the gift of another year and hope to continue the trend until I’m fresh out of years, celebrating birthdays becomes a lot more insignificant whether it’s a year spent on this earth or another spent back in your right mind.

There’s a nuance.

Clean generally refers to the physical aspect of recovery, meaning free from substance use. Sober often encompasses a broader scope, including the mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of recovery. It implies a deeper transformation, a new way of living and thinking not just in the absence of a substance but in the presence of life overall.

At Celebrate Recovery meetings, I’m asked what has helped me accrue so many years off Meth and a half-dozen other substances who’d become my best friends for nearly 10 years. The older I get, the more my story changes.

Getting clean and staying clean is entirely dependent on the discovery of something that gets you higher.

For me, it was my three kids and the sudden September 4th, 2011 acknowledgment of a once promising life going nowhere in accord with my faith and values. It took seven felonies and handcuffs but the light came on and sobriety became the engine that promised to lead me on the track where I’d been a mere caboose for so long.

A burning desire to write came next, and I started my LifeMeansSoMuch.com website which is now the repository of over 350 stories about life, living and my philosophical pursuit of real happiness in my faith.

So, 13 years are just around the corner and I expect a bunch of folks will wish me congratulations, all of which have become a little less important and a little more impotent with each passing September. No offense, just the honest truth.

And truth is healthy sobriety.

be smarter than a garden snake.

Woe unto them who call evil good, and good evil.

Isaiah 5:20

Reframing is the oldest trick in the book.

In particular the Bible.

Eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil was reframed to Eve by the serpent as something that would open her eyes, seeing God in his true, selfish form.

As she did then, we still do today.

We so easily fall for the lie. Except now, it’s the media, politicians and our elected leaders who openly deceive us for their gain.

Wake up, be smart, speak out and call out deception in all its forms.

Be smarter than a garden snake.

end game.

The weakness of so many modern Christians is that they feel too much at home in this world.—A.W. Tozer

The sooner we accept that while we are in this world but not of this world, and will be home soon enough, the less likely fear and discouragement will succeed in thwarting our mission.

Still, win our battles, though losing the war is prophesied imminent.

We know how this world ends but we also know, thank God, it was never our home anyway.

ask.

“I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need.”

‭‭Luke‬ ‭11‬:‭8‬

Never be reluctant nor ashamed to ask for what you need from those who may be equipped to help.

When you work nonprofit with a deep passion for the people of your mission, make the ask of others without shame. It’s an ask, not a demand, and your love for them remains unchanged by their response.

You are merely sharing needs of others to others for others.

God alone stirs people to action according to His timing, plan and purpose.

But be audacious.

Hell is truth seen too late.

The most unfortunate truth is that the older we get, the narrower our search for purpose becomes.

Age adds experiences that begin to make deeply personal differences much later than they ought.

As years pass, my faith becomes more central to my being and the pursuit of it as the defining “meaning of life” is so much more obvious and clearer well beyond what had been present in my merely curious early years.

Urgency to let others know that time is short and decisions they make now will determine their destination later drives us old men to instruct young men from experience, love and camaraderie to make changes in themselves and in the world while they still can,

narrowing their own search for purpose and meaning.