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About Don Miller

A lifetime Las Vegas resident and father of three grown children, Don spent 15 years as a licensed psychotherapist and speaker in private and hospital practices. Prior, he was part owner of an award-winning family advertising agency. Having fallen into addiction to crystal methamphetamine several years ago, losing everything to the drug, he has been clean since 9/4/11 and more sober about life with each passing day. The stories and content of this site are the accumulating epiphanies of his journey into sobriety, shared here to inspire others, especially those who remain embroiled in addictive battles of their own. LifeMeansSoMuch, the song title by Chris Rice (and you are highly encouraged to download it on ITunes or YouTube,) is the lyrical inspiration for the content of this site. Don is currently a life coach, author, speaker and manager at a non-profit, HopeLink of Southern Nevada.

The best version of yourself.

“So too, at the present time there is a remnant chosen by grace. And if by grace, then it cannot be based on works; if it were, grace would no longer be grace.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭11‬:‭5‬-‭6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Grace is unmerited favor. 

Not deserved. Not earned. Not justified by anything we can do. Unmerited. 

Be a good person. Behave. Observe laws and rules. Tow the line. Work really hard at being the very best version of yourself you can muster and still miss the mark entirely. 

Seems unfair?

Somewhere along your journey of being good are blemishes and events that clearly demonstrate the opposite. 

We are all far from perfect. 

To deny that fact is to invalidate both the death and the resurrection of Jesus on our behalf. 

Props to you for all the effort but pursuing works as an entry fee into heaven, ironically, is a ticket to hell. 

Faith in Christ must precede our pursuit of good deeds and selfless works. 

Good deeds don’t earn salvation, they are the natural and necessary evidence of a living faith. 

God’s grace seals the gap between whose we are and what we do as a result. 

Misled.

There were also false prophets among the people, just as there will be false teachers among you. They will secretly introduce destructive heresies, even denying the sovereign Lord who bought them—bringing swift destruction on themselves. Many will follow their depraved conduct and will bring the way of truth into disrepute. In their greed these teachers will exploit you with fabricated stories.

‭‭2 Peter‬ ‭2‬:‭1‬-‭3‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Ancient passages sometimes read like current events. 

As history unfolds before us prophetically, the villian’s end game is revealed.

I’m all too often surprised when people refuse to see the revelation of events foretold so long ago and still choose ignorance over acknowledgement. 

Schooled to believe that having faith in God is a weakness instead of the means to life everlasting, they buy the lie and deny the power of our Creator to rescue them from the very veil that blinds them and those who would mislead them.

Christianity is increasingly becoming little more than a conspiracy theory to those who are being lost. 

It’s in these moments that we need to desperately pursue those around us who have been misled and penned in as sheep for slaughter. 

Don’t give up. Earnestly present your case and reason for the hope that once rescued you from the same destiny. 

Knowing how it might end for some must be the beginning of your prayer for those who may still follow Christ and live.

Some people.

Sometimes you just need to walk away. They’re not your problem and you’re not their solution.

These people are blemishes at your love feasts, eating with you without the slightest qualm—shepherds who feed only themselves. They are clouds without rain, blown along by the wind; autumn trees, without fruit and uprooted—twice dead. They are wild waves of the sea, foaming up their shame; wandering stars, for whom blackest darkness has been reserved forever.

‭‭Jude‬ ‭1‬:‭12‬-‭13‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Immovable, unshakable, and unbendably living toward evil ends, these people present empty of hope, love, or promise. 

Pray you never have to encounter ‘these people. They’ve crossed the line into soil in which only God can toil.

Jude minces no words about ‘these people.’

While god wants all to come to the full knowledge of the grace that saves, He knows some will not, and for the evangelically-minded believer, that’s a tough nut to swallow. 

But just as the farmer harvests from fields that are vibrant and living, he spends his resources on those with greatest potential and accepts that some are just dead chaff. 

This is a sad passage but a reality. 

And all the more reason to pray more earnestly for those hardest to redeem.

Redemption is a job for the only One who can redeem.

Make the first move.

 “I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.” It does not, therefore, depend on human desire or effort, but on God’s mercy.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭9‬:‭15‬-‭16‬ ‭NIV‬‬

https://bible.com/bible/111/rom.9.15-16.NIV

Nice thing about being God is you answer to no one. 

No protesters calling you divisive. Nobody waving signs against your policies.  No voting you down for what you stand for or against. 

God answers to no one but himself. 

He makes the rules and applies them absolutely. 

All the god wannabees in the world who believe in their own personal omniscience discover they are also neither omnipresent nor omnipotent.

Since time began, all human attempts at justice and mercy, though bravely fought and well intentioned, have failed miserably at their own standard bearing. 

Mercy and compassion are gifts given solely by the one who created their qualifying criteria: faith and profession of belief in the son he gave.

There. is. nothing. more. required. 

But if you seek mercy and compassion, make the first move and see what happens. 

To the death.


That which was from the beginning, which we have heard and seen with our eyes, which we have looked at and our hands have touched—this we proclaim concerning the Word of life. The life appeared; we have seen it and testify to it, and we proclaim to you, the eternal life, which was with the Father and has appeared to us.

‭‭1 John‬ ‭1‬:‭1‬-‭2‬ ‭NIV

A dozen guys with an identical eyewitness so real that each is willingly martyred in rather than recanting their experience. 

Today we’d call this a cult. 

But history’s billions and billions have drank the Christian kool-aid and lived changed lives as a result. 

They are from the world and therefore speak from the viewpoint of the world, and the world listens to them.

‭‭1 John‬ ‭4‬:‭5‬ ‭NIV‬‬

One gulp leads to a first and then to a second death. Their ignorance is based on a worldview that opposes God and his rightful placement on the throne.

But isn’t most of our beliefs based on truths we don’t observe first-hand but we trust in the story behind them. Better yet, enacted beliefs prove themselves to be true over and over again. 

We will all believe in something. 

I choose that which people willingly die for to uphold, defend, and consequently have proved over and over for centuries.

On stage.

If we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.

‭‭1 John‬ ‭1‬:‭6‬-‭7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

The world loves it when a professing believer falls. 

They feel great joy when hypocrisy is revealed and chalk it up for a relentless rebuttal of Christianity writ large. 

Truth is, a fall that’s confessed sincerely is forgiven completely and returns us without blemish to the light and fellowship with God. 

Those who lie in wait watching for our inconsistencies just use them to reinforce their ignorance of saving grace and proof against ever obtaining something that doesn’t exist. 

Falling is gonna happen. Then happen again. 

Stop putting on their show, further distancing them from being reconciled to God and get your act together. 

Believers are always on stage and in the spotlight of critics and their bad reviews. 

Get used to it, get help, and get better. 

Not for them, for you, and for your testimony of God’s love and salvation.

Tormented.

Lot, living among them day after day, was tormented in his soul by the lawless deeds he saw and heard.
‭‭2 Peter‬ ‭2‬:‭8‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Halloween is just around the corner with its more than usual abundance of witches, ghouls, monsters, and opportunities for a scare or two by characters each famous for its own special history of lawless deeds.

Sodom and Gomorrah was ground zero for an uncostumed display of such lawlessness that left Lot and his family in fear and torment from evil so rampant and on parade, daily life there became no holiday.

Things we see, hear and celebrate in our culture, especially living in Sin City, have become so overwhelming we are, ourselves now underwhelmed by them.

But for many, trying to live righteously in constant battle with our own personal demons is no party and it’s become harder and harder to find and number truly good people in our midst to assist.

Celebrating darkness and all it conjures up is now no big deal. The counterculture now is being prudish on the holiday affectionately regarded as the day of the dead.

We are called to celebrate life and life everlasting.

Halloween?
Not a fan.

A way that seems right.


“For if you live according to the flesh, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭8‬:‭13‬ ‭NIV‬‬

The Holy Spirit is a lot like our conscience. 

Conscience is the moral arbiter which guides our thinking, moment by moment, setting the best path for our behavior that follows. 

It convicts us, navigates us through every whim and fancy, and carries us past waves of human temptation onto saner shores. 

Jesus said the Holy Spirit is the gift that would follow with power that enables us to follow him through salvation and sanctification when our desires and urges threaten to overtake our sanity. 

God grant us serenity to accept the things we cannot change ourselves. 

The Holy Spirit rewards our obedience with a peace that passes all understanding. 

Having a conscience is what sets us apart from mere primal beings, confirming God’s ways are good, leading us not into temptation and delivering us from evil. 

“There is a way that seems right” is a quote from Proverbs which warns that a path that appears correct to a person may ultimately lead to destruction. 

Relying on one’s own judgment or perception can be misleading and lead to negative consequences because human judgment can be flawed or selfish. 

Seek divine wisdom instead of trusting solely in your own understanding.  

In the words of Jiminy Cricket, let conscience be your guide. 

There’s no place like home.

His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.

‭‭2 Peter‬ ‭1‬:‭3‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Like Dorothy’s shoes 👠 we possess everything we need to take us back home. 

Even when we find ourselves way off course or in foreign lands, the power of God equips us for a safe return when we cry for help. 

He who called you by His glory and goodness will never leave you nor forsake you powerless and alone. 

Make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness.

For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

‭‭2 Peter‬ ‭1‬:‭5‬-‭6‬, ‭8‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Peter lists for us a few of those things that give us wings.

Each is an added value to the former like building blocks of a stable foundation and secure structure reaching ever upwards. 

Faith, goodness, knowledge, self-control, perseverance and godliness are markers along the path we choose when what we need and desire most is a critical redirect back on course. 

There’s no place like home when it’s back into the Father’s arms.

Faith over fear.

Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.
‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭3‬:‭15‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Providing an answer is different from providing a defense.

All too often we are provoked into an argument by someone disguised as a seeker but who actually just wants to win a debate.

Each of us has his own reasoning, experience, or both, that was pivotal to our conversion.

You need not be a bible answerman, apologist, or Charlie Kirk to share the reason for your faith and hope with one who asks.

I’m convinced the reason many are reluctant to share is fear that their testimony won’t be satisfying enough to bring another to Christ.

The last thing we leave in any personal encounter is how you made them feel.

Our call is to share our circumstances, reasonings, and experiences. It is God’s job to do the rest.

What we share and how we share often resonates with a sincere seeker, provoking them to further study on their own or, if you’re lucky, with you as their guide.

The word of God can stand on its own. It’s been studied and scrutinized by the best and always wins every test.

Just as you’ve found it to be so, others will take the same journey after you only to discover the same.

Share your faith, not your fears.